Our modern flower children…

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My grandmother’s wild herb books.  She was a believer in herbal remedies and modern medicine.

For a long while I’ve been thinking about social media and how it is changing American culture.  Some of the best behavior can be found on social media, but the negatives definitely seem to be outweighing the good, in the larger cultural context.

This blog post isn’t really just about needleworking, so, please stick with me as I  give some back story.

A couple of years ago I ticked off some women in a YouTube community by commenting and at that point I didn’t understand the dynamic of these mostly female cliques on YouTube, but they operate just like female cliques in the real world with certain popular women being the “queen bees” of the group.  I wrote a few blog posts about that experience, here, here, here, here.  I simply stopped watching those channels in that community, despite my love of needlework, because walking away seemed best.  What bothered me about this YouTube stitching community is so many of the needleworkers on their channels wanted to share their expertise, and don’t get me wrong, many of them are extremely talented, but many of them promoted stitching behaviors that are a recipe for disaster for new stitchers.  It seemed to me many of these women wanted to be “influencers”, is the hip social media word, I suppose, to encourage and promote both their YouTube channel and the love of needleworking, but they didn’t have any concern for giving bad advice or promoting fads that don’t help any stitcher become a better stitcher or learn how to complete more needlework  projects .  However, they weren’t actually concerned that they were promoting a recipe for disaster for beginning stitchers.  In 2017, I wrote:

“Whenever I learn a new type of needlework, I try to learn the basics first and practice a lot.  My mother taught me simple rules about embroidery and I still follow them.  These rules are in the instructions in almost every cross-stitch kit and book too.  They aren’t my mother’s rules, but the time-tested standards for embroidery, of which cross-stitch is a popular type of embroidery.

Anywhere in social media, I run into issues stating facts or an opinion that offends someone or evokes anger, so it was no surprise to me that on floss tube, I would offend someone.  The prevailing attitude is it’s taboo to say anything is wrong, apparently, even when what people are promoting is not only wrong, it’s a recipe for disaster for new stitchers.  Some stitchers started a facebook group called “Stitch Maynia”, which began as some event in May, where they focus on starting a new cross-stitch project every day in May.  Their focus is all about starting new projects, not about finishing what they start. They believe they are promoting cross-stitching and doing something good.

There’s now also a common attitude among many stitchers that it doesn’t matter how the back of their work looks, it’s all about that stitching makes them happy.  If you don’t care that your work is sloppy and a messy back on needlework is sloppiness (that’s a FACT), fine, but once you have a facebook group and a floss tube channel, with thousands of followers, well, you can become a corrupting influence very quickly.  This happens with Reality TV stars constantly too.

I tried to point out to a fairly new cross-stitcher that from years of experience with needlework and crafting, that starting too many projects leads to lots of unfinished projects and also added stress.  To keep track of this madness, there are floss tubers waxing on about all their “WIPs” (works-in- progress) and the spreadsheets, stitch journals and stitching schedules, they are using to keep track of it all.  Into this chaos, they insist they love stitching and starting so many things makes them”happy”.  For a new stitcher, this approach assures lots of wasted money, lots of unfinished projects and lots of poor needlework.

There is no foundation, of focused practice and good stitching habits, upon which excellent stitching is built.

One of the ladies who promotes sloppy needlework at Stitch Maynia quickly tried to tell me I was wrong and that it’s all about being happy stitching and that the back doesn’t matter.  She also told me she has 20 years experience at cross-stitch.  I didn’t even bother to respond, because it’s lost on her.  She has no idea how sad it is to smugly state she’s proud of doing sloppy needlework for 20 years. Sadder still is most of these needlewomen, caught up in this “feel-good” ethos will follow her advice and believe I am mean for stating that standards in needlework (just like everything else we take pride in) matter.  She proudly told me Stitch Maynia has 9,000 followers.”

https://libertybellediaries.com/2017/05/01/when-everyone-gets-a-gold-star/

The thing that irked me the most about many of these “popular” women  in that community is I observed new stitchers starting YouTube channels and wasting a lot of money trying to keep up with the Stitch Maynia crowd  – trying to start too many projects, not working to develop good stitching habits, not working to learn to get the basics down pat and not slowing down to focus on finishing projects.

I have needlework patterns back to the late 70s and I started counted cross-stitch in the early 90s, so I’ve acquired a collection of counted cross stitch patterns that I will never be able to have the time to stitch in this lifetime. I also have tons of scrapbooking supplies, rubber stamping and numerous other craft and needlework supplies.  I acquired a sizable fabric collection intending to some day learn to become a proficient quilter… except the few quilting projects I’ve done, I don’t enjoy at all.  I don’t really like quilting, even though I love handmade quilts.

Simple Diane Graebner cross-stitch pattern  in my q-snap frame, that I’m stitching right now and still need to add the apples, apple basket and goose.  This particular pattern was in the March/April 1996 Cross-Stitch & Country Crafts magazine.  Yes, I still pull out old patterns to stitch and that is why I am not getting rid of my large collection of cross-stitch patterns.

On YouTube, I’ve watched a lot of other crafting videos and learned a lot, just like I learned a lot from many of the needleworkers’ videos too.  However, each group of YouTubers seems to have the same dynamic of “influencers”, who become the most popular YouTubers in that community and then groupies (or subbies, since they are subscribers to the channel), who decide they want to be just like those popular “influencers”.  These groups also have the same dynamic of popular “influencers” trying to use their YouTube channel as part of an online business, along with social media presence on facebook, instagram, setting up etsy shops to sell their products or starting a Patreon subscription site, where followers can subscribe and get more content.  Many “influencers” also sell online class subscriptions.

All of this is fine and dandy and some “influencers” will be able to make some money, but here’s the catch – most won’t and most will waste way more money trying to be like the popular “influencers” than they will ever recoup in sales.  This social media “being popular’ fixation feeds the worst parts of American culture.

Several years ago, I started watching the “tiny house” shows on TV, which began a fad of many people opting for, as the sales pitch went… “living big in a tiny house”.  The things glossed over were the problems insuring houses in America that don’t meet building requirements and the problems with building codes in many parts of America in regards to placing a non-permanent structure on residential property.  Concurrent with the mindset of living with less stuff, expressed by many people opting for the tiny house living, are other fad lifestyles  focused on “back to nature lifestyles”, living off-the-grid, preppers, and “homesteading”, a term that has taken on many meanings beyond what traditionally was considered setting up a homestead to operate a family farm.

The things most of the YouTube people engaged in “homesteading” and living off-the-grid seem to have in common are most come from city or suburban lifestyles, most have no knowledge of farming, most mention learning about “homesteading” mostly from watching … you guessed it… YouTube videos by popular “influencers”.  Don’t get me wrong, some of the “homesteaders” on YouTube appear to be working very hard to safely and responsibly build a working farm, that can provide most of their family’s needs.  Separating the wheat from the chaff with homesteader channels can’t be determined by the number of YouTube subscribers a channel has.  Being popular does not equate to offering good advice or knowing what you’re talking about.

All of this sounded so familiar and it’s like the 60s and 70s type flower children, who wandered off into the rural countryside, to set up blissful communal living, have now set up YouTube channels to lead this new generation into the wilderness:

“Starting in the late 1960s, as many as a million young Americans — mostly white, college-educated and from middle-class backgrounds — left their homes in the suburbs and cities and moved, often sight unseen, to farmhouses, remote mountaintops and woodland clearings, with a goal of building their own shelter, growing their own food and living closer to the earth. A young Bernie Sanders was among them.

Far from being an eccentric anomaly, Bernie is in fact a classic example of a distinct, specific, historical phenomenon: the back-to-the-land movement of the 1970s. The quirky details of his early bio — buying 80 acres of Vermont forest in 1968 and renovating an old sugarhouse into living quarters — are in fact shared by thousands of ex-urbanites across the country during the same period. My own parents moved from Cambridge, Massachusetts, to a northern Vermont hilltop in 1971 and, following advice from the residents of a local commune, began building the house in which I was raised, a geodesic dome.

As I explore in my new book We Are as Gods, so many people went back to the land in this period that they helped bring about one of the most unusual demographic shifts in American history, briefly reversing 200 years of steady urbanization.”

https://www.rollingstone.com/culture/culture-news/how-the-back-to-the-land-movement-paved-the-way-for-bernie-sanders-65188/

The modern-day flower children iteration set up a YouTube channel, quit their day jobs and decide to embrace “homesteading”, hoping to earn enough to live off hawking their lifestyle on social media, selling subscriptions to their Patreon site.. and as new gardeners, they hope to grow enough food and raise livestock to feed their families and still have enough of their fresh, “non-GMO” produce to sell at farmers’ markets…  Some of these homesteaders, on the quest to become YouTube famous quickly, have young children living in this chaos, where neither parent has any knowledge or experience at subsistence farming.  Yes, most of these YouTube “homesteaders” are pursuing subsistence farming as their sole means to support their family… oh, and the dream of becoming YouTube famous…

Many use their children as actors on their YouTube channel, hoping to attract more subscribers, while they ramble on about how they are pursuing a pure simple lifestyle, unlike the terrible values in our consumer lifestyle…

Here’s the thing, it’s fine to try to set-up an online business using social media.  It’s not fine to use your children as stage props, while they are living without even basic functioning water, sanitation, or heating systems in your hovel.  It’s not fine to acquire livestock, you have no means to properly feed, shelter or pay vet bills.  Large livestock are an expensive investment.  It’s totally irresponsible to be unprepared for the cost of feeding and caring for them, but it’s beyond reckless to drag small children into a living situation, for which you have no training, no experience and no skills to provide even the basics of safe water, sanitation and heating… because you want to “live off-the-grid”. I watched videos of one such family seeking  YouTube fame, where the father had a low-level retail job and talked about going to part-time hours, so he would have time to devote to promoting their new Patreon site and doing the YouTube videos… oh and I guess, in between all of their online time…  work on the family “homestead”.

Speaking as a mountain girl, who grew up around some of the most self-reliant, tough country folk, here’s the reality check for “homesteading” and “living off-the-grid” – the biggest part of being self-reliant is learning the basics of self-reliance in rural living before moving you and your family into a rural area you are unfamiliar with and unequipped with the skill sets to thrive in.  Learn the basics before wandering off into the wilderness or countryside.  If you don’t learn to properly plan, disasters and accidents will very likely befall you, your children, your livestock and your crops.  Listening to advice from YouTube famous homesteaders bypasses the single most important thing that can mean the difference between survival and disaster in rural America – get to know your real neighbors and work hard to establish close community ties.  In an emergency, sending text messages to people you know on social media is no substitute for calling someone in your neck of the woods for help.

Your best resources for information on a rural area, which you are unfamiliar with, are the locals and many rural areas still have a county extension office, where you can get a great deal of agricultural and home food preservation information for free.  The locals can direct you to the best places to get supplies, they can offer sound advice about the land and local climate, they can become your closest lifeline of support in an emergency.  Relying on popular YouTubers advice isn’t a recipe for self-reliant living, it’s a recipe for calamity.

We had some flower children set up communes on old farmsteads in the 70s, in our rural area.  They had no clue how to live in the country, but at least they were living in a large group and many of them came from affluent family backgrounds, so they had the means to buy the necessities, because they sure weren’t going to survive on the fruits of their agricultural labors.  This iteration of the back-to-nature movement, unfortunately, seems to be individual couples, many of them with young children being swayed by YouTube famous “homesteaders”.

 

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22 responses to “Our modern flower children…

  1. JK

    “A couple of years ago I ticked off some women …”

    You familiar LB with the Clint Eastwood movie (not to be confused with the book) The Outlaw Josey Wales?

    Well there’s an exchange between Chief and Josey after they’d escaped the town and Chief’s interested in how Josey always manages to “tick off” the most craziest-eyed person first before going on to the least.

    Bear with me LB, I’m getting there.

    Anyway the ending dialogue in that scene begins with Chief asking Josey, paraphrased, “Why does it seem you’re without lasting ‘good relationships’?” To which Josey replies, “Because it seems everytime I go to liking somebody they ain’t around long.”

    To which Chief replies, “Seems like when you take a disliking to somebody they ain’t around long either.”

    Somehow LB that scene, seems to me, reminds me of us.

    • Been thinking for a long time, JK, that groups of women always operate in a hive mentality and organize likewise… always a queen bee or a small group of queens, controlling the hive mind. You challenge their ideas and order, they’ll start buzzing doing a whispering campaign to try to get other worker bees to attack and destroy you.

      On YouTube crafting and needlework it’s almost all women in these groups, which differs from political queen bee control ops or romance queen bee ops (yes, the queen bee behavior abounds in romantic and sexual relationships), where queen bees delight in using men as pawns to carry-out the dirty work. The queen bees can sit back and watch the destruction of their enemies, all without having to get their own hands dirty and being able to create plausible deniability.

      Back in the 80s I started trying to understand something you posted some info on a few years ago and which didn’t even have a name, let alone being a real scientific field of study – Living Systems, in regards to figuring out how terrorist groups and cells operate.

      Groups of people develop various operating systems to survive and thrive too, not just bees or animals.

      The Soviet intelligence dynamics, especially their active measures info war ops always reminded me of a queen bee, very catty female, type of operating. The constant gathering kompromat, especially sexual dirt, the constant mind games to manipulate and intimidate people, is a very human female “queen bee” way of operating.

      I used to think the American intelligence community and military, being completely run and dominated by macho male thinking, often became completely neutered in the face of these type of Soviet operations – it couldn’t be crushed or defeated with military might.

      Strangely enough, in the 90s, after the Soviet Union collapsed, an American version of kompromat emerged – the Dem’s SPIN character assassinations carried out in mass media spin attacks… Very bizarre shift in the world there. Odder still was there was one woman at the center of the Dem SPIN universe in the early 90s, who created her own network of operatives to orchestrate Clinton damage control and character assassinations.

      Just saying, that despite his bravado and tough talk, Trump operates like a “queen bee” too…

      I refuse to join any hive, not even a sewing circle these days, because somehow, I think you’re right, JK:

      “Well there’s an exchange between Chief and Josey after they’d escaped the town and Chief’s interested in how Josey always manages to “tick off” the most craziest-eyed person first before going on to the least.”

      I managed to tick of some of the craziest-eyed people in 1998, sitting right here in my own home, commenting on a freakin’ online message board. I should cross-stitch a little sign to hang above my desk here: “Mock the Queen Bee at your own peril!” LOL.

    • That’s disturbing to even think about, JK.

      • JK

        The bloghost guy (and family) LB, grew up in what used to be Rhodesia. He knows the neighborhood. And the “greater environment.”

        I hope somebody besides the relatively few of us is paying attention. I’m expecting CNN and FOX to cut into their propaganda any day now.

        (Yeah right.)

      • All of American media is consumed running the Trump Reality Presidency Show 24/7. Sadly, Trump basks in being the star of this show. It’s very bizarre to think about all the other news, especially happenings around the world, that are not covered at all now… except by bloggers and assorted pundit sites. It’s like America lives inside the Trump bubble

  2. Up2L8

    This makes the second time he has (had) criminal indictment.
    Was also charge in 2013. https://pittsburgh.cbslocal.com/2013/03/26/charge-against-punxsutawney-phil-dropped/

    • I grew up in the Pocono Mountains (northeast PA) and we had an elderly neighbor, Raymie, who would have known how to mete out justice to Punxsutawney Phil. Raymie was a chain-smoker, who stubbed out his cigarettes in the palm of his hand, which was all thick hard callous. When we kids came home from fishing in the nearby creek with suckers, my mother would remind us to throw the suckers back in, because we aren’t eating suckers, who eat all the muck from the bottom of the creek. My Pop, on the other hand, would chuckle and tell us to give them to Raymie. He told us, “Raymie will appreciate them. He eats anything, even the groundhogs.”

  3. JK

    Been over on Duff’s site awhile LB and sumpin’ came up where an old John Schindler piece was recalled to my memory. Probably good to call attention to it now – though, reading John nowadays leads me to believe he probably wishes he’d waited a month and three days before clicking, “Send”

    https://observer.com/2016/10/politicization-of-the-fbi-threatens-american-democracy/

    • That was definitely the old John Schindler, before he became part of the Comey, Clapper, Brennan cheerleading squad… and a proponent of the intelligence community going to war against a sitting president.

  4. JK

    Yeah the old Schindler. I actually kinda miss him.

    Kinda.

  5. JK

    Yes Friend I was confident in our agreement. Only put that comment on there for the benefit of your other readers. The link adding being what I figured was more important – apparently that Sam Topeka hasn’t(?) fully digested its import. My thinking on since, the IG’s gonna be looking into the one dossier for sure, and the Shearer dossier makes a number of the same assertions, he’ll (the IG) almost certainly have to look into more stuff than even me and you are probably aware of.

    And if that happens the *stuff is really gonna hit the fan.

    • I am not going to get too hopeful that “some” people will ever be held accountable for their spin smear operations, after waiting 20 year to see them get their just desserts, but it sure would be poetic justice to see them go down… finally. What a day for Trump, JK, Avenatti arrested too, ROFL.

  6. JK

    Accountability is probably out of reach, statutes of limitations &c but at this point I think I could find some level of appreciation just for the mere action of ’em “getting outed” names named et cetera et cetera.

    LOL too ’cause I’m thinking that sleazebag Avenatti’s name probably figured in some witness lists/investigations which are probably getting even more complicated than they mighta been.

  7. JK

    Because you may, may not want to post on this I’ll place it down here:

    https://www.nationalreview.com/podcasts/the-mccarthy-report/episode-39-arrival/

    • Well, this is 2019, he should have been 3D printing all of this. Geesh, my son designed a small circuit with a switch to mount on his fancy Italian motorcycle, to open and close his garage door. His friend is designing a case for that circuit, which he’s going to print on his 3D printer. I don’t even have an electric garage door opener, lol. Still manually open my garage door.

  8. I’m Ok with stitchers, as long as they keep there’re needles in their wool.

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