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Self-help projects: an American tradition

“I award him my ultimate insult: He is no gentleman.” – Kinnison

If you’re new to my blog, you might think the above quote comes from another century, but rest assured it’s from a true gentleman, who comments here occasionally.  Few men today in America even think or put forth the effort to develop the character of a “gentleman” and society suffers for their scarcity.  Vulgar behavior, gratuitous violence, disrespect and violence toward women and children fill that void.  Now the counterpart to gentlemen used to be “ladies”, but the desire to redesign gender, social order, the workplace and even the bedroom make even uttering the word “lady” an insult to the modern-day feminist woman.  So, here we are with the rules of civil behavior tossed to the garbage heap.

With the new year comes the usual resolutions, almost invariably focused on healthy-living and getting your life organized.  Along with the resolutions we’re inundated with self-help advice from experts on how to turn those resolutions into reality.   Well, as for me, I am going to keep working on forgiveness and I added forbearance to my list.  And I sure need to also work on the healthy-living and getting organized too.

Although ladies and gentlemen are a rarity, a few still exist in America and they’re almost exclusively found within the ranks of the US Armed Forces (both active and retired).  With the social engineering there, they’ll be extinct shortly, but let’s take a little trip back in time and look at two of America’s founding fathers and how they made character development an integral part of their daily lives and in typical American fashion, they did it as a self-help project, without any formal instruction.

First up, my favorite founding father, George Washington, America’s first President, commander of the Continental Army, that secured our liberty, farmer,  and self-taught gentleman.  Sure, he was a slave-owner and he wasn’t some perfect person, but he achieved a great deal in his life worth emulating.  Since everyone likes visuals more than reading, here’s a National Geographic documentary and as with everything in America these days, the comment section runs on and on with partisan diatribes about the video – on the right, it’s called a liberal witch hunt to denigrate the founding fathers, and on the left, you can find charges about his owning slaves disqualifying him as worthy of any place in history.  Here’s the video:

What I really wanted to focus on is how George Washington made it a point to copy and study a common guide for manners and decorum,  Rules of Civility, that Jesuit tutors had used from the late 1500s onward, to train young boys of the wealthy.  Young George got a hold of a copy and carefully copied all 110 rules and he studied them.  Americans come by their self-help penchant honestly, because it’s been a part of America from the very beginning.  This is the land of “you can become anything you want to be” and George Washington became the father of our country.  His immense popularity could have made him king, but he insisted on being a President, who served the Republic and then retired.

The “Rules of Civility” is available free online at many sites. Here are a couple links:

http://gwpapers.virginia.edu/documents/the-rules-of-civility/

http://gwpapers.virginia.edu/documents_gw/civility/civility_transcript.html

If you’d like to read more about the Rules of Civility, I recommend Richard Brookhiser’s slim book, which offers an excellent introduction and interesting commentary about the various rules.

Next up Benjamin Franklin, statesman, inventor, scientist, publisher, revolutionary, and self-help guru too.

Benjamin Franklin described his self-help regimen as the 13 Virtues. He came up with his plan when he was 20 years old and he devoted a week to each of the 13 virtues, in an ongoing cycle. He described keeping a chart of his progress

For more reading on Benjamin Franklin here’s a link to his autobiography:

http://www.let.rug.nl/usa/biographies/benjamin-franklin/

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Rebuilding the American Team

Dear Readers,

Upon entering the blogging world in 2012, I almost talked myself out of continuing after the first few posts.  Whether for good or ill, here it is almost 2016 and I’m the one shocked that I’m still enjoying writing this blog.  Now, with that said in the new year, it’s time for some changes.

Instead of endless political and foreign policy commentary (402 posts in 2015), I’m going to attempt to move my blog in another direction.  Anyone can be an armchair critic about all that is wrong in American politics and culture, but let’s face the truth, it’s not the politicians’ fault for the state of our culture, our communities or the problems in our own lives.  Despite the hype about the 2016 election, neither political party can fix America.  Only committed citizens can do that.

Assuredly, failed social programs do deserve criticism, but let’s enter the new year facing the truth.  Rebuilding the American team starts at the individual level, in fact, it starts with each of us.  So, with this wide open internet why can’t we start working to share ideas, resources, and most of all inspirations geared toward that mission:  rebuilding the American team.

Sure, there will still be politics and some of my trademark snarky commentary, but I’m inviting all of you to email me ideas, links, posts, with important lessons in American history, stories of heroes, stories of grassroots programs that work, educational information, life stories, whatever you feel like sharing and I will happily post it!  You can just post it as a comment too and I’ll convert it to a blog post. Use your real name or a pseudonym, whatever you feel comfortable with, but I would like to turn my blog into more of a chat around my kitchen table type atmosphere rather than me droning on and on and on.

My email address is libertybellediaries@yahoo.com

Wishing y’all a very Happy New Year!

Sincerely,

Libertybelle

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The complete guide to understanding America

In today’s Washington Post a new American citizen, Carlos Lozada, offers sage advice for every American, in a piece that offers a fresh perspective on our unique political experiment, quoting a very old source – “The book every new American citizen — and every old one, too — should read: To mark my first year of U.S. citizenship, I read Alexis de Tocqueville’s “Democracy in America.” Turns out, it explains everything”Lozada explains:

“My first full year as a citizen of the United States was also the year Donald Trump made nativism a viable political project. It was the year college activists battled racism with their own peculiar intolerance. It was the year Rachel Dolezal was redefined, Atticus Finch rewritten, Caitlyn Jenner revealed. It was the year police shootings became viral, mass shootings became daily and same-sex marriage became law. It was a year America did little else, it seemed, than fight over values, identity, premises.

It’s exhausting, being American. Seriously, do you folks do this every year?

I’m not a recent arrival. I graduated from college here, got married here, built a family here. But only with citizenship did I grasp the distance I’d always kept. I left my native Peru behind 27 years ago, but whenever this country seemed too painful or complicated, I’d shake my head sagely. Estos gringos locos. Except now everything about the place — its virtues and excesses, its history and future — is all mine, too. For the first time, I feel the glorious burden of being American.

To carry it, I’ve realized I need help. Sure, I passed the citizenship test, even practicing the list of 100 questions with my kids. (They’ll ace elementary school civics now.) But for the advanced coursework, my instinct was to turn to a book. What could I read that would guide me through the chaos that is democracy in America?

Fortunately, there’s this little book called “Democracy in America” — written 175 years ago by, of all people, some know-it-all foreigner.”

Democracy in America is also available free online at http://www.gutenberg.org:

Vol 1 here

Vol 2 – here

 

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What he should have said

Here’s what President Obama should have said on Sunday night.  Sen. Ben Sasse from Nebraska articulates who we’re fighting and what we are fighting for. (H/T Truth Revolt.org)

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Short Veterans Day Tribute

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Shoulders above the crowd

GOP candidates love to compare themselves to President Ronald Reagan. None of the current crop even comes close. So, to remind people of why Reagan stands shoulders above, here are a few videos showing not only the inspirational side, but also the humor:

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Where have all the gentlemen gone?

“I always thought it was so very American, when we were back in the days when Americans were known to be brash and bold. But I want to point out something while I’m thinking about Shane and the Virginian—both of them had impeccable manners. It was actually pointed out in the books, not by saying it, of course, but by having someone notice it and be shown thinking about it. It was a part of each man. Polite, filled with decorum toward actions and other people. Decent. Even knowing which fork to use—I loved it. Because the books set out the best of all worlds.”

– Minta Marie Morze

My friend, Minta, serves not only as a trusted friend, she’s also part cheerleader and part muse to keep me writing.  When she sent me her critique on my blog post the other day, where I had mentioned the 1902 novel, “The Virginian”, my thoughts turned to dissecting what it is about Donald Trump that bothers me the most.  The answer has nothing to do with Trump’s political views or flip-flops.  What bothers me is not just the brashness nor the bragging, it’s about his ungentlemanly behavior.  His supporters cheer that he isn’t bowing down to PC, but here’s the truth, he isn’t offering an example of behavior that is any better.  Going on Twitter and bashing Megyn Kelly as a ‘bimbo” doesn’t come across as “presidential”, but it also shouldn’t be acceptable behavior for any man.  Yes, I mentioned the Kelly/Howard Stern interview in a previous blog post and I find her behavior questionable too.  This all leads to the much larger topic of this post:  “Where have all the gentlemen gone?”

It seems that almost daily we are assaulted by more left-wing social-engineering insanity, accepting every sort of sexual disorder and deviancy as just a lifestyle choice, the expansion of imaginary gender categories too freakish and numerous to keep track of, and on to the angry racial animus tearing at the very seams of American society.  At the center of this turbulent storm swirls a core of rage and violence.  We have a lot of angry people in America, especially young men.  Across the seas lies another culture that has promised death to America, and the one thing they have in common with America is they have a lot of angry people too, especially men.  So, here we go as I ponder the history of gentlemen.  In a 2013 blog post, I delved into, “Why America needs gentlemen…. and ladies too”, but decided it’s time to revisit this topic.

In a 2013 column, Mark Steyn wrote about the groups of young black men engaged in knock-out crimes attacking innocent white passers-by.  He wrote:

“As things stand, if white youths target a black guy it’s a hate crime, but vice versa is merely common assault. I doubt this would make very much difference. “No justification of virtue will enable a man to be virtuous,” wrote Lewis — and, likewise, no law can prevent a thug punching an old lady to the ground if the thug is minded to. “A society’s first line of defense is not the law but customs, traditions, and moral values,” wrote Professor Walter Williams a few years ago. “They include important thou-shalt-nots such as shalt not murder, shalt not steal, shalt not lie and cheat, but they also include all those courtesies one might call ladylike and gentlemanly conduct. Policemen and laws can never replace these restraints on personal conduct.””

Read more at: http://www.nationalreview.com/article/364659/knockouts-high-and-low-mark-steyn

The Islamic State nutjobs (more out-of-control young men) claim to be building a new Caliphate, as they crucify, behead, and topple every vestige of civilization, both modern and ancient.  These barbarians apparently read about as much history as the New Black Panthers, the thugs rioting in Baltimore, Dylan Roof and all these other violent young men.  Since 9/11 I’ve heard Charles Martel hailed for stopping the spread of Islam in Europe at the Battle of Tours in 732 AD.  He stopped the Moors, who had conquered Spain, but it wasn’t until the late 1400s when the Moors were driven out of Spain.  What followed was the Spanish Inquistion, where the Muslims and Jews were driven out of Spain and heretics (those who were not Christians) were rounded up, judged, then sentenced to extremely brutal punishments.

Most Americans, due to our lamentable education system, have no clue that the Moors(Muslims) in Spain had built an advanced civilization that far surpassed the rest of Europe at that time.  I came across a passage in the 1943 book, “The Discovery of Freedom”, by Rose Wilder Lane, describing where the European code of chivalry originated. It came from the Muslim world.  The Moors brought that code to Spain and during the Crusades, Lane notes the knights observed it in the  Saracens’ world  during their travels to the Holy Land. “Saracen” is an archaic term for Arabs/Muslims during the Crusades.  Lane writes:

But the returning Crusaders brought back to Europe the first idea of a gentleman that Europeans had ever had. Until they invaded the Saracens’ civilization, they had never known that a strong man need not be brutal. The Saracens were splendid fighters when they fought, but they were not cruel; they did not torture their prisoners, they did not kill the wounded. In their own country, they did not persecute the Christians. They were brave men, but they were gentle. They were honorable; they told the truth, they kept their word. This ideal of a gentleman especially impressed the English. It is still producing perhaps the finest class of human beings on earth today, the men and women of the British ruling class. It is an ideal that permeates all of American life. This is what surprises so many people in many parts of the world, when they see and meet the common American soldiers and sailors.

Lane, Rose Wilder (2012-05-02). The Discovery of Freedom (LFB) (Kindle Locations 2118-2125). Laissez Faire Books. Kindle Edition.

So, I looked for some more history to back up this notion of Muslims in the medieval world being the inspiration for European codes of chivalry and the development of the gentleman and here’s a passage from a 1900 history book, “A Short History of the Saracens: Being a concise account of the Rise and Decline of the Saracenic Power and of the Economic, Social and Intellectual Development of the Arab Nation” (a Google book page 519):

“But Cordova was not merely the abode of culture,of
learning and arts, of industry and commerce; it was
the home where chivalry received its first nourishment.

Chivalry is innate in the Arab character, but its rules
and principles, the punctilious code of honour, the
knightly polish, the courtliness, all of which were so
assiduously cultivated afterwards in the kingdom of
Granada, came into prominence under an-Nasir and his
son. “It was at this period that the chivalrous ideas
commenced to develop themselves, joined to an ex-
alted sense of honour and respect for the feeble sex.”1
Another competent writer states that chivalry with all
its institutions, such as came later into existence among
the Christian nations of the West, flourished among the
Saracens in the time of an-Nasir, Hakam, and al—Mansur.2
Here came foreign knights under guarantee of peace and
protection to break lance with Saracen cavaliers.”

Now, back to Minta’s astute observation that started off this post, well, here’s a passage from, “The Virginian”, where the Eastern visitor describes his first encounter with the Western cowboy, who happens to be the Virginian:

“As we went, I read my host’s letter–a brief hospitable message. He was very sorry not to meet me himself. He had been getting ready to drive over, when the surveyor appeared and detained him. Therefore in his stead he was sending a trustworthy man to town, who would look after me and drive me over. They were looking forward to my visit with much pleasure. This was all.

Yes, I was dazed. How did they count distance in this country? You spoke in a neighborly fashion about driving over to town, and it meant–I did not know yet how many days. And what would be meant by the term “dropping in,” I wondered. And how many miles would be considered really far? I abstained from further questioning the “trustworthy man.” My questions had not fared excessively well. He did not propose making me dance, to be sure: that would scarcely be trustworthy. But neither did he propose to have me familiar with him. Why was this? What had I done to elicit that veiled and skilful sarcasm about oddities coming in on every train? Having been sent to look after me, he would do so, would even carry my valise; but I could not be jocular with him. This handsome, ungrammatical son of the soil had set between us the bar of his cold and perfect civility. No polished person could have done it better. What was the matter? I looked at him, and suddenly it came to me. If he had tried familiarity with me the first two minutes of our acquaintance, I should have resented it; by what right, then, had I tried it with him? It smacked of patronizing: on this occasion he had come off the better gentleman of the two. Here in flesh and blood was a truth which I had long believed in words, but never met before. The creature we call a GENTLEMAN lies deep in the hearts of thousands that are born without chance to master the outward graces of the type.”

Throughout America, gentlemen still exist, although they are definitely an endangered species.  The US military used to be a bastion of fine gentlemen, but the Obama transformation marked them for extinction, under the guise of progress, where sexual orientation and progressive nostrums neuter gentlemen and turn them into parsing, mincing PC cheerleaders.  The ones who want to wear the skirts are being given top attention before being separated from the military, as it seems the Secretary of Defense spends more time working to make sure transgenders can serve openly than he does trying to make sure we defeat ISIS.

There are still glimmers of hope, like the young American men, who charged ahead unarmed to deal with an Islamist terrorist on a French train recently. so let’s hope across America, some Moms and Dads are still teaching their sons to be gentlemen, because they are sorely needed!

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My thoughts on “Making America great again!”

A few months ago, after more than a decade, I left my job working at a big-box store in my Southern small town.  Before working there, I had spent 18 years as a homemaker, until my husband retired from his 24 and a half years in the Army.  We moved frequently and at each Army post, I devoted time to volunteering in my community.  Presently, I am at home caring for my husband, who is a 100% disabled veteran.  I may seek a part-time job at some point, but for now I am unemployed.  Neither my blog nor I are in any way connected with any political group or political party.

The main problem I see, from my small window into America as a whole, is not any particular hot button issue, not even illegal immigration, which Donald Trump blasted into the headline-grabbing menace.  Trump throws out other people as the cause of our problems, when the real problem is our culture as a whole. The truth we don’t recognize is that the politicians, whom the minuscule portion of the electorate that even bothers to vote for, DO accurately represent us.  Yes, they do, they like to promise a lot and deliver very little, but much of America lives the same way.  Trump seized on the “making American great again” slogan, but blaming illegal immigrants or the Chinese for our woes rests as self-delusion.  America, being all of us, have allowed our culture to decline into factionalized herds of ignorant, rude sheep.  I see very little difference between the far-left # movements and Trump, frankly.

The things I observed working in a blue-collar job, humm, let me offer some home truths.  There was an endless turnover of employees at my store (typical of retail and fast-food jobs).  Many of the new hires were young people and most didn’t last 90-days. A frequent lament, “They aren’t paying me enough to do this!”,  began many times within the first week.  In fact, many times, I had new hires say this the very first day of work, prompting me to retort, “You haven’t even done anything yet to earn the pay your are getting!”  So, the things I encountered very often were young people who either could not or would not follow simple instructions.  Many required constant babysitting or they wandered off.  Many expressed how working in our store was beneath them and they were destined for better things.  And the overwhelming problem I observed was ATTENDANCE – some did follow the proper call-out procedures to inform us they weren’t coming to work, but many didn’t even bother to do that.  Another recurring problem was employees calling out from work one day and then expecting to be given more hours later in the week to make up for the hours they missed by calling out – yes, they expected their work schedule to conform to their desires.  This is the reality.

Now, nearby my small town is a large agricultural area, with many Mexican workers (lots are probably illegal immigrants too).  They live isolated out in that rural area and on weekends some of the farms have old school buses painted white, which transport these workers to our store to shop.  Most are men, but there are lots of families too.  I’ve often wondered what their life is like living isolated and not assimilated.

Are these farm workers, who will work for less than minimum wage, really stealing jobs from Americans?  I doubt it, because when I ran the lawn and garden department in my store,  the young employees would high-tail it inside when the temperature was over 100 degrees some days and I found myself working on the patio with an elderly German lady and an older Puerto-Rican man and an old white man, all of  whom complained daily about the lazy young people.  And as a cultural note, for the oh-so-superior American view expressed by so many wailing about Mexicans, the Mexican families I saw here – the children were invariably dressed nicely with the mothers wearing dresses and the little girls in bright-colored dresses too.  I saw hordes of Americans shopping with their kids in pajamas or just a dirty diaper, their hair uncombed, and quite frankly looking like orphans.  Of course, often the parents hadn’t bothered to change out of pajamas or comb their hair either, just slid into flip-flops to slouch along.

It’s easy to blame other ethnic groups for America’s problems, but frankly our major problem is we’ve allowed our culture to decline into a disgusting mess of vulgarity, incivility and volatile factions.  We’ve lost our shared values and dedication to common American principles.  Trump’s brand of vulgarity, touted as being “anti-PC”, offers nothing to emulate or admire.  It is possible to express disagreements thoughtfully and respectfully in the public square, without turning it into a mud-wrestling contest. We need to encourage open debate of issues and herein lies the thing, Trump doesn’t argue his points, he just hurls insults, whines and brags about his poll numbers.   Poll numbers tell us about what people feel, but what we need is for more people to actually THINK and read more, then decide on issues.

The main problem in America is NOT illegal immigration, it’s US (as in we the people) and until we realize that we’ve allowed our culture to decline into herds of angry, ignorant sheep being herded by a host of  political wolves in sheep’s clothing, we remain doomed.  To make America great again we need to find our way back to being an America that believes that each of us is responsible for whether we succeed and whether we fail.  It begins at the dinner-table teaching our children manners, into the local community, where citizens meet and organize to transform their own communities and then it gains momentum in our civic organizations and political structures.  We need to rebuild America from the ground up and quit looking for magical solutions, like his Great Wall of Trump.   What we really need is a Great Awakening of our American spirit!

America was built by the sweat, toil and tears of many immigrants who traveled here, often with little beyond the shirts on their backs.  They invested every fiber of their being into creating a home here in America.  They built America!  They organized and funded local schools to educate their children, they took pride in organizing civic organizations and they believed in the power of the individual to determine his/her own destiny.  We must be  willing to invest every fiber of our being into rebuilding a better, stronger, more vibrant America, one that reflects the hopes and aspirations of those who sacrificed their very lives for our freedom, but first we need to make sure that we know what America means.  Making America great again doesn’t start with Donald Trump – it  starts with each and every one of us!

The Quest For American Leadership In The 21st Century: A Few Home Truths

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Grace in action

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About the sacrifices

“A Nation Greater than We Deserve” by David French

“To say that we can’t repay our debt to these warriors is not to say that we shouldn’t be good stewards of the fruits of their sacrifice. Indeed, the knowledge that all of our lives and opportunities are to some degree blood-bought should sanctify them for even our most secular citizens. Honor sacrifice by tending to the tree of liberty, by building something in your own turn that is worth defending.”

Read more at: http://www.nationalreview.com/article/418789/nation-greater-we-deserve-david-french

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